Grow Up Kiddos

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Grow Up kiddos


This blog is completely based on my recent observation. Today we hear a lot about boy-girl relationships and all. This blog is for/on this relationship only.

Before you actually go and read this stuff I must inform you that this is not my personal opinion but just an observation. Also this blog relates to every 2nd or 3rd individual in today's scenario. Here I will explain you how a boy and a girl think or what perception they make after getting approached by the opposite sex.

This title must be very much familiar because we usually listen and speak it in our daily life. Today before we actually start
I have a free advice for every reader, "Grow up kiddos".

In the recent past, a few days ago I have observed how both male and female react when they get approached.

Everybody does have the  "PAST" by virtue of which he or she develops a prejudgemental attitude towards people. They start comparing their past to their present and Unfortunately there is no logic behind that of being compared of those. Past is something that had already happened and you could not do anything about that and the present is something you can mould or design as per your decision which you are gonna take next. So be careful While taking a step towards your future.

Now what I observed was that there was a girl who was good in nature, having good personality and good attitude. She always gives you back a smile if you smile to her. That is what I think a very gentle gesture. But here stereotype begins, to every guy (most of them) to whom she was smiled back, was thinking that the girl actually wanted to have a relationship. Like we say in hindi, "Hasee toh Phasee". That is completely different from reality. Every bad judgement will lower down your confidence, your attitude and your moral. So be assured when you make any judgement towards/for anyone.

Now the other side of the coin. This is something what I have personally experienced in my life. Whenever a boy approaches a girl stereotype begins. If I am approaching you that does not mean that I'm interested in you. Do not judge me if you do not know me.

First of all everybody is unique. They have different faces, build structures, different personality and attitude and the most important things different approach towards life. They all are so different how could you treat like one. Just because you have your prejudgemental perception.

I want you all to notice to things here
1. Nobody is same
2. Not everybody wants to have relationship with you if he/she approaches you.

I may understand boys scenario in first case they are supposed to react like this. But we expect something better from you girls.

"Break the stereotypes", "Grow up kiddos".

Free Advice: Take it or leave it.

Rise n Shine
Regards
Kamal R
Have a great Approach!!

Experience Is a Great Teacher!!!

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Experience is a great teacher.

Before you go ahead and read this please make sure you are well prepared to read this. Do not read this to judge me or my writing skills. If you're really interested to know what my opinion is only then go ahead and read it. All the very best.

They say, "Experience and wisdom comes with age."

Experience, good or bad, is a great pioneer to your next step. Some may agree, some might not. Some would say why to make mistakes and get experience while we can learn from others' mistakes and experiences. Though it is important but personal experiences leave an indelible impression on our minds that are long lasting and invaluable. Like a good teacher her lessons are very thorough and we can only ignore it, to our own peril.

First of all, what ever we learn through our own experiences is long lasting. As anything what we learn from others, we forget that pretty quickly. As we are not aware of the process, we over look the advices and suggestions. But when we go through the struggles and hurdles ourselves we experience the whole process. This hand on experience help us to remember our journey and keep us alert for long time.

Secondly, in addition to extended impact learning by own experiences is most informative and understandable. When we realise something ourselves, we understand that more. These experiments and inference help us to master.

We learn from everything we do, in fact life is one great journey of learning. We learn patience when faced with adversity, courage in face of danger and wisdom from our mistakes. We must learn something from our own life to make our future better and ready to take care of hardships of our lives. It is very Unfortunate that some of us learn this lesson very late in life.

However in this short span of life we should therefore, not only from our own experience but also profit from others' experiences. This would save us from many a pitfall and the unnecessary labour that goes with it.

Avoid it N Get it!!!!

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Avoid a thing and you get it. How many times it happens whenever we try to ignore something it bounce back to us so quickly. Is it a coincidence all there is a difference prospect behind this? I think that there is a logic behind every ignorance. One does not ignore someone or something until he or she has a great reason to avoid it. And whenever we have any solid reason to do something. We do things more eagerly and with more passion.
So whenever someone tries to ignore he or she continuously thinks about that thing or a person that thought remains in his or her mind. One place has been occupied in person's mind for that particular thing.
Unknowingly you install a particular space in your mind for that particular thing. As it remains in your mind it becomes permanent. You get attached to that thing irrespective of that fact that you want to ignore it. Gradually it becomes more stronger than that it was. Ultimately whenever you ignore someone or something it becomes more closer to you. And you find yourself in condition of not avoiding it anymore.

Free advice: Do not give special Attention it leads to Addiction.

Signing off
Kamal R.

Expectation always hurts.

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Expectation always hurts. You cannot expect people to understand you. It is completely their own choice if they really mean to understand you. You cannot impose your thinking and decisions to anyone. It is always better to accept the fact that there could be only one who can/could be close to you and that would be only you. If you think you can have a better friend or partner outside you. Then I am sorry to say that you are wrong. And you will remain in the same zone until you decide to leave this thought. It is human tendency to expect. We are brought up like this that we expect certain things from people. These people could be your friends, near ones, dear ones or your family. There are certain situations which are beyond your control and you could not expect or you have to survive on your own.

I know that people do not like free advice still I feel that ONE should not expect anything from anyone except himself. The one who opts for this power will definitely win the world. 

Love People or Leave People

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People come and go!!

Feelings remain in the heart. People live in the hearts. Time never return, even you can't follow the time. The best you can do is to remain in touch with people to whom do you think they are close to you. Take out time from your busy schedule to meet and to Re-Live those moments which you will always cherish.

If you are attached to someone please go and share your attachment to him/her. Maybe you do not get another chance to live these moments again. Go and live your life.

Rise and Shine.

Regards
Kamal R

Legendary Amitabh Bachchan Pencil Sketch

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Pencil Sketch of GOD of Cricket

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Welcome to Sketch Art.

Sachin Ramesh Tendulkar known for his contribution to Cricket. Master Blaster named as the 'God Of Cricket' by the rest of the cricket world and fans. He is the only batsman who have a long really long list of record. May God Bless him always.

You are So Special

You are so SPECIAL.

Hi All, It’s been a long time But here I am with all this.

I don’t know why people compare one with others. It does happen across every house now-a-days when Parents say, “SHARMA JI KA LADKA BANGLORE MEIN JOB KARTA HAI...40000 SALARY LETA HAI TU KUCH KARTA KYUN NI.”

I mean what’s the logic if SHARMAJI KA LADKA 40,000 KMATA HAI N MAIN KUCH NI. Just give me a Break. If I don’t have a 40,000 salary that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve respect or I’m not capable of. But “IN PARENTS KO KAUN SAMJHAYE??”
I’m sure this story belongs to every Young Individual who just could not get his Dream Job rather I know Being Jobless is a really tough Job to carry on.
Actually it’s not only about PARENTS because sometimes they understand in which phase you are going through when you mendaciously make them understand about you being Jobless. Like “MARKET MEIN JOB HAIN HI KAHA” or “WO FRIEND KAH RAHA THA KI ELECTIONS KE BAAD OPENINGS HI OPENINGS HAIN.” But one thing All Parents sure about their child that Not now but certainly their child will let them feel proud.

 There are a group of People(mostly Undesirable) in Everyone’s life who just get recruited to criticize you. You might not have as much tension as they have about you and your life.

OWWW BETE NE KYA KIYA HUA HAI!! ABHI TAK JOB KYUN NI LAGI?? And then whispering to your mother just to remind her n asks her KAHI TRY NI KAR RAHA KYA? HMARE BITTOO KI TO LAG GAI GURGAON MEIN JOB.

And We smilingly Congratulate her for encouraging our mother to take our personal Interview about being Jobless. (Meanwhile Our emotions about Bittoo rise up and we just wish “BITTOO TU MIL TO SAHI EK BAAR”

Isn’t It embarrassing? I mean how could you compare me with anyone else who is completely different creature of GOD?
Then our parents expect us to visit these type of Relatives. “TU KAHI ATA JATA KYUN NI HAIN KAHI AAYA JAYA KAR”

Everyone on this Earth is a different creature, have different ways of life and views. Everyone can not be a DOCTOR, an IAS or An Engineer. (I mean maybe an engineer). So let them Decide what they want to be and how they do it.

Success is always favourable but it will be fantastic when you achieve it on your own terms; with your true passion.

“Don’t compare Anyone with Anyone else.”

“Believe me YOU are very Special.”
Regards
KAMAL R. 

Being Physical is Important.

Hi Everybody.
It has been a long time I haven't written something. But now I'm back with my new article.
Is this really necessary to be physical in a relationship? How important the sex is in your relationship? Would your relationship survive without sex? Can lack of Intimacy be the cause for a break up?
I think being physical or having sexual closeness with your partner is necessary to have a healthy & mature relationship.
Intimacy between couple comes naturally. It is the best way to express your love and affection to your partner. You may say ''I Love YOU'' lot of times in a day to your partner but nothing can express your feelings better than a physical Intimacy.
Everybody wants a sense of openness and closeness in a relationship. Everybody has needs and it is necessary to be fulfilled. There may have some people who maintain and manage their relationship without sex and it could be because either one or both people in relationship have their own limitations and reservations or because they want to preserve their 'Virginity' till marriage.
But I think it's difficult to survive for a relationship without sex & sometimes Sex comes before Love.
Sex adds spice to a relationship & is extremely important as everybody has sexual needs that need to be satisfied.
Basically it is not the matter that could a relation survive without sex or not but the matter is 'how long through'.♥♥
Although it is important but not to do sex just to please your partner. As I already mentioned, ''it is the best way to show what you feel and how much you care about your partner.''
So overall, love is the basic requirement to make/start a relationship & sex plays a vital role in keeping it going.
Thanks.
Regards
Kamal R

"Just Relationship"

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Just Relationship

Hi, Welcome back guys.

Today when I am writing this article there are so much negativity around me but still I take a chance to write this with so much positivity and maybe I would get succeed to write something useful to you.

Now I’m sharing here about relationships. Recently I have posted on my Facebook wall “Being in a relationship is not worthy at all”. So one of my friends posted a note about what he thinks about Relationships with the title “Why Relationships fail?” 

So I have taken some inspiration from there as well.

I think relationship needs only one thing that is “Trust”.  As far as there is trust in your relationship your relation exists. I don’t say relationship even survive without Love, care, affection and all. These are necessity of a true relationship. But most important is trust.

Most of the relationships break because of lack of trust. When one of the two partners doubt on other one relationship starts to get close to its end (conditions apply). #Self_Experienced.

One thing that matters a lot is situation. I personally trust that “when someone betray/leave his/her partner there must be some issue behind it” (If real relationship exists).

In Hindi:

Uski Bbhi Kuch Majburia Hongi’

Koi Bewajah Bewaffa ni Hota.

People think if there is any doubt in their relation so it would hurt and it’s over now. But it starts to get to close to its end when those doubts are not cleared. If your partner doubts you then instead of reacting negative on him/her it’s better to understand his/her state of mind at that time and the situation in which he/she is.  Maybe you would find that you would also react same as he/she did when you would be on his/her place at that situation. So when you have the chance to save your relation then don’t waste time to just save your relation.

Some people start ignoring their partners on these situations. It would certainly go worse than it and you would finally lose your partner. Just don’t ignore your partner and have a chat on the matter before critical situation appears when you have nothing but The Guilt of your Relationship.

Lack of communication only creates a Non cross-able river between couple. So don’t create it for yourself it’s better to have a healthy conversation and have a result instead of lack of communication & end of a relationship.

When people allege their partners then they might have a different point of view you just need to clear up the doubts & change the angle from which they are trying to understand the situation.

Hope this would help you find a better way to treat your partner & Relation.

Be Healthy & Take Care.

Regards

Kamal R

 

Who is Your "BEST FRIEND"?

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Who is Your Best Friend?

Hi

Welcome All.

This is my gift to you all on this Friendship day (4th August, 2013).

Yesterday was certainly a Life Changing Day for me. There were lots of ups and downs for me individually but I found someone, who really cares for me and would stand with me when I would be in need.

Everybody on this Earth seeks at least for one person who is “True” to him/her. There is always a special place for That Person who remains with you in every situation and condition. Everybody needs that someone with whom he/she can share everything even those moments which he could not share with anybody. Everybody needs a ‘True Friend’.

It is always demanding to be genuine to your friend as I think friend has more importance than your wife/husband. You don’t share every moment with your Parents, not with your husband/wife, not with someone else but with Friend whom you consider ‘Genuine’ to you.

When we start a relation with someone we always think that he/she would remain genuine to us. But mostly we find out with time who is your Genuinely True friend.  A friend is someone who understands the meaning behind this word ‘Friend’.

Friend is someone who will be there for you always; celebrating your success with you when you get your dream job; consoling you when you get rejected in your interview; telling you that he/she is not worth your respect, care and love when you get Breakup with your gf/bf; scolding you when you make a mistake when you miss your mark. Friend is always making you feel what your real worth is.

In the start of this article I shared that I found someone who will be my True friend and will remain true to me. Yesterday I met with “Kamal Rewri” and I know he would remain Genuine till the end of my Life. I have some good friends and a Best Friend (other than myself) as well. Time changes continuously; situation will change with time, some would remain in my life some would leave me but I will not leave myself in any situation. My priority will remain the same to me; it will not change with situation. I will remain the first priority of Myself.

I’m not saying that the friends you have will change according to the situation but you are the only one who will remain genuine to you till the end of your life nothing else. But we always need the one outside us with whom we can share everything.

Friends are the Treasure of Life. So please keep your Friendship alive. Being lonely just gives you pain nothing else.

 So this is my advice to Everybody.

“Be Genuine, Be true. If there is something wrong happened in your relationship then calls your friend and tell him/her how Important he/she is in your life. This is the time so Just do it. Don’t think what he/she would think and how he/she would react just tell him/her his/her importance”

Thanks.

Regards

Kamal R

Motivation by Inspiration

Motivation by Inspiration

Quiet similar words but having a great difference in meaning.

I always heard that to meet the GOD you must need a GODFATHER.

Most of the times it is justified because everything in this world has become achievable by shortcuts.

And shortcuts always require someone who guides you to get your destination.

There is always having a stage with everyone in his/her life when he/she needs Motivation.

We need a kick start to move ahead continuously.

Most of the times we are right but we don’t have courage to say it & take a decision according to that. Many a time you must have listened if you want to be like someone, you need to get some guidance from that someone & most of the time it is said” you must be Somebody because now days those somebodies are having great demands & they are paid a lot.

Right ….!!!!!!!!

But nobody cares who you are & what you want to do.

Sometime you may get the feeling that you could not do anything & everything seems unachievable.

You are exhausted by your daily routine, your dear and near ones because they always want you to be at the top without knowing the fact that what you are capable of & in which field.

I also had a phase when I was irritated & frustrated with myself & anyone else. I didn’t have that courage to face my problems.

I was running continuously but in opposite direction.

You must have heard about Mr Sandeep Maheshwari in my last Blogs.

He is the man who changed my outlook towards life.

I am not a philosopher or a very high classed typical successful person who always tries to give you lectures. But I have that courage to say you all I will be successful one day.

I have faith in my capabilities. To be successful, you need not to run hard towards your aim, but you just need to make sure that you are on the right path and you would continuously move ahead.

“NA DAUDNA HAI, NA RUKNA HAI, BUS CHALTE RAHNA HAI”

There is a minor difference between Motivation & Inspiration.

Motivation leads you to believe that You can do it.

Inspiration leads you to understand what you can do & how.

And both are essentials of our daily life.

I faced so many interviews and got rejected many a time. But I always know when I would be outside the interview room, I would be telling to myself that this time I would definitely get selected because I heard a thing that says……..

“Whatever happens, happens for the BEST”

There is nothing like Bad Luck in this world because

“Jo bhi hota hai ache ke liye e hota hai”

You just need to put your foot on the accelerator & make sure that you are on the right path.

So whenever you need to get motivation, just be near to your best buddies as you may have lost that faith in yourself but your best buddies will not.

And whenever you need Inspiration just listen to yourself because there is no bigger Inspiration than yourself in this world.

Stay healthy.

Stay motivated.

All the best

Regards

Kamal R

Gradients in the Recipe of Life

Searching….. Searching………. Searching………. Searching……!!!!

Still searching The Next Topic of my Blog.

My College Life………Done

Motivation…………….Done

Love Life……………...Done

Imagination…………..Done

What has been left now? I don’t know what to write next.

Actually I need some suggestions from you guys. I require feedback from you. Positive or negative whatever it may be but I need this from you.

Some of my close friends complimented me on my Last Blog. One called me “Kamal the Writer”. The other one suggested me to write a novel. I thanked them.

I can’t talk to everybody to know the status of my Blog. So please, I request you all, do comment on my Blog. Give me some suggestions or feedback about my writing skills so that I can improve.

Gradients in the Recipe of Life

I start with the sentence,” Success comes from Experience & Experience comes from Bad Experiences.” 

That means to enjoy your Success fully you must be a failure in the past. Here failure means Experience. In this world, if you want to be at the top, you must start form the ground. Then step by step move up & continuously aiming for your aim & that will definitely let you be at the top.

There are some important gradients in the recipe of Life that would make you a Successful Human Being.

•        Positivity
•       Calmness
•       Passion
•      Doer

These all are complementary to each other. If one of them stated above is missing, you will be lacking in your life.

Positivity:- It is easy to say that I’m optimistic or a positive thinker. But in reality No human being can control his thoughts.

A Human Being thinks on more than 50,000 thoughts in a day. He has not have command on his thoughts. It’s a natural process.

It is mandatory where ever there is light, there must be a darker side (shadow).

Same is applicable with this Positivity comes with Negativity.

Now the question arises how to manage to be positive? The only solution is to be a good listener/observer. Until you don’t analyse a thought you could not say whether it is a Positive one or Negative one. To remain Positive you must concentrate on Positive only.

You just need to set your measures to decide what is positive & what is negative…!

Just keep the positive ones with you & ignore the rest.

Calmness:- Why calmness?

 To take any right decision of your life you must consider both sides of the coin & for that you must be calm & relax. Because..

“Ek sahi Kaam ko karne ke liye Josh ke sath sath Hosh Ki bhi Jarurat hoti hai”

Passion:- Passion leads any Impossible thing into Reality.

Every time you decide to do something you need to have that passion to do it right. Without it I don’t think one can achieve something.

Whenever you feel that you have a strong desire to do a particular thing that means you have strong passion to do that.

 Whatever which gives you happiness without having the second thought develop a Passion within you.

Doer:- If you are having all the above stated qualities but you are not a DOER then it is all waste. Until you don’t have courage to pursue your desire into reality everything is waste.

So just do it.

When you have taken Positivity, you have a great Passion & have the Calmness required then Just be a Doer & Do it.

Do it for your Passion, for your Success, for your Life.

Thank you all.

Hope this will help you.

I will be waiting for your feedback.

Regards

Kamal R. 

A Medicine to all your Problems: Suicide?

You must have heard about actress Jia Khan committed suicide. That case has become more complicated. Her last movie was with Akhshay Kumar & her career was started with the Living Legend Mr Amitabh Bachchan & in the very next movie she was with Mr Perfectionist Aamir Khan. Nobody knows the reason behind this sad incident. The whole Bollywood is “Nishabdh”.

Now the question arises” Is this the solution for every Problem?”

If you get low marks in your board exams & you don’t have courage to face your parents who always want you to be at the top; so you can’t just commit suicide to get rid of all your problems.

Is this the real solution?

May be for that someone who wants to run away from all his problems but after this what would have been the future of his dear & near ones who always have the dream for you to be at the top.

They want you to become somebody in the society so that they can say proudly that yes he is my son or she is my daughter.

Sometime A person is in that situation that cannot be bearable. May be he/she could have the courage to face his/her problems.

May be the problem requires more mental strength than they have.

My question is who is responsible for these types of cases?

Parents? Police & System? Education System? Or an Individual?

Obviously this era is the era of competition. Every parent wants their child to get good marks, to be very athletic, to be No. 1 & to make them proud in any manner.

Sometimes they ignore the talent of their child & make their child a puppet & want him/her to perform well just to make sure that their child is ahead of someone’s child & make them feel low.

I was watching television some days ago & I observed that most of the parents pressurizing their child to be no. 1, there are so many Reality Shows for kids now days & parents just want them to get in at any cost.

They don’t want their children to be at the top in one field but all fields.

When I searched for the suicide cases in India at one of famous News Agency’s website I found more than 20 cases of suicide on the front page of that website.

And most of them had happened within last 24 hours. Those were the cases I came through but the list was not short enough.

Is our police system responsible for this?

I don’t know why people always blame police force & system…!!!

If somebody doesn’t have courage to find a safe way for his problems how police force & system would help?

Now days so many board exams’ results have been declared & some parents are very happy because their children made them proud & some are searching for that smile which was on the faces of their children at the time of vacations.

Not every child would be a topper but does the grading system divide students?

Teachers always appreciate those on which they don’t have to work hard. But those who are little bit slow in their studies don’t deserve a chance to be taken care of more precisely?

Some of the students lose hopes against grading system. They have more worries about their near & dear ones, how would they react after knowing the fact about low grade of their child?

In the end “They quit”.

There are different roles of teachers, parents and friends to encourage their students, children & friends to be tough enough to face any type of problems.

Suicide is not the solution for every problem.

There are phases when pressure is so hard on the mind & we don’t know what to do.

In my opinion, the only solution of any problem in this world is “to share” &” find the solution.”

The path may be hard but the end will be good.

Hope this would help you all when you need this type of encouragement.

This time I, Kamal R is signing off.

See you soon

Stay healthy

Stay fit

Stay focused

Regards

Kamal R.