Grow Up Kiddos

Welcome to "The Transformation".

Grow Up kiddos


This blog is completely based on my recent observation. Today we hear a lot about boy-girl relationships and all. This blog is for/on this relationship only.

Before you actually go and read this stuff I must inform you that this is not my personal opinion but just an observation. Also this blog relates to every 2nd or 3rd individual in today's scenario. Here I will explain you how a boy and a girl think or what perception they make after getting approached by the opposite sex.

This title must be very much familiar because we usually listen and speak it in our daily life. Today before we actually start
I have a free advice for every reader, "Grow up kiddos".

In the recent past, a few days ago I have observed how both male and female react when they get approached.

Everybody does have the  "PAST" by virtue of which he or she develops a prejudgemental attitude towards people. They start comparing their past to their present and Unfortunately there is no logic behind that of being compared of those. Past is something that had already happened and you could not do anything about that and the present is something you can mould or design as per your decision which you are gonna take next. So be careful While taking a step towards your future.

Now what I observed was that there was a girl who was good in nature, having good personality and good attitude. She always gives you back a smile if you smile to her. That is what I think a very gentle gesture. But here stereotype begins, to every guy (most of them) to whom she was smiled back, was thinking that the girl actually wanted to have a relationship. Like we say in hindi, "Hasee toh Phasee". That is completely different from reality. Every bad judgement will lower down your confidence, your attitude and your moral. So be assured when you make any judgement towards/for anyone.

Now the other side of the coin. This is something what I have personally experienced in my life. Whenever a boy approaches a girl stereotype begins. If I am approaching you that does not mean that I'm interested in you. Do not judge me if you do not know me.

First of all everybody is unique. They have different faces, build structures, different personality and attitude and the most important things different approach towards life. They all are so different how could you treat like one. Just because you have your prejudgemental perception.

I want you all to notice to things here
1. Nobody is same
2. Not everybody wants to have relationship with you if he/she approaches you.

I may understand boys scenario in first case they are supposed to react like this. But we expect something better from you girls.

"Break the stereotypes", "Grow up kiddos".

Free Advice: Take it or leave it.

Rise n Shine
Regards
Kamal R
Have a great Approach!!

"Just Relationship"

Welcome to "The Transformation".

Just Relationship

Hi, Welcome back guys.

Today when I am writing this article there are so much negativity around me but still I take a chance to write this with so much positivity and maybe I would get succeed to write something useful to you.

Now I’m sharing here about relationships. Recently I have posted on my Facebook wall “Being in a relationship is not worthy at all”. So one of my friends posted a note about what he thinks about Relationships with the title “Why Relationships fail?” 

So I have taken some inspiration from there as well.

I think relationship needs only one thing that is “Trust”.  As far as there is trust in your relationship your relation exists. I don’t say relationship even survive without Love, care, affection and all. These are necessity of a true relationship. But most important is trust.

Most of the relationships break because of lack of trust. When one of the two partners doubt on other one relationship starts to get close to its end (conditions apply). #Self_Experienced.

One thing that matters a lot is situation. I personally trust that “when someone betray/leave his/her partner there must be some issue behind it” (If real relationship exists).

In Hindi:

Uski Bbhi Kuch Majburia Hongi’

Koi Bewajah Bewaffa ni Hota.

People think if there is any doubt in their relation so it would hurt and it’s over now. But it starts to get to close to its end when those doubts are not cleared. If your partner doubts you then instead of reacting negative on him/her it’s better to understand his/her state of mind at that time and the situation in which he/she is.  Maybe you would find that you would also react same as he/she did when you would be on his/her place at that situation. So when you have the chance to save your relation then don’t waste time to just save your relation.

Some people start ignoring their partners on these situations. It would certainly go worse than it and you would finally lose your partner. Just don’t ignore your partner and have a chat on the matter before critical situation appears when you have nothing but The Guilt of your Relationship.

Lack of communication only creates a Non cross-able river between couple. So don’t create it for yourself it’s better to have a healthy conversation and have a result instead of lack of communication & end of a relationship.

When people allege their partners then they might have a different point of view you just need to clear up the doubts & change the angle from which they are trying to understand the situation.

Hope this would help you find a better way to treat your partner & Relation.

Be Healthy & Take Care.

Regards

Kamal R

 

Don't misunderstand to understand the misunderstanding

”Don't Misunderstand to Understand the Misunderstanding"
And this would definitely be applicable to all. Misunderstanding creates divide.
It is necessary for a relationship to have love, care and understanding.
No I do not mean that understanding is much more important than love and care but it has its own importance. When someone is in a relationship he may have the blind trust and faith in his partner. Having faith in your partner is good but blind faith is not good at all.
Obviously being possessive and jealous is natural in a relationship but excess of anything can be dangerous.
I'm not against being in a relationship but anything more than required can be getting worse than ever.
Most of the times I saw a minor Misunderstanding leads to divorce or breakup.
Break up from all the love, care, affection & trust.
When you are in a relationship You must be conscious of what is happening around you in your relationship.
It may be very easy for someone to create Misunderstandings and Break the relationship.
Misunderstanding makes you to be out of your own relationship.
Be honest and loveable to your partner and make your relationship as strong so that nobody can try to break your relationship.
I also was the victim of Misunderstanding. I had lost so many relationships just because of some Misunderstanding.
It always requires time to make new friends and make them believe that you are their true friend.
I also had taken so much of time to make those friends and made them realize that I was a genuine guy.
But it was hardly taken a second to be thrown away from all my relationships just because of minor Misunderstandings.
Friendship, love and affection everything needs a second chance.
When you would have believed in your friend, love & partner then make that count at crucial times.
Don't allow anyone else to decide future of your relationships.
Stay calm, stay trusted so that your partner can have that second opportunity to convince you and make you believe that your partner is always with you in your happiness, when you would be sad, when you want to celebrate and when you need someone to hug you & make you feel like you are really special.
Special to your Parents, to your best buddies & to your love.
So it is an advice to all
" Don't misunderstand to understand the Misunderstanding".
Stay healthy, stay awake.
Regards
Kamal R