"Just Relationship"

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Just Relationship

Hi, Welcome back guys.

Today when I am writing this article there are so much negativity around me but still I take a chance to write this with so much positivity and maybe I would get succeed to write something useful to you.

Now I’m sharing here about relationships. Recently I have posted on my Facebook wall “Being in a relationship is not worthy at all”. So one of my friends posted a note about what he thinks about Relationships with the title “Why Relationships fail?” 

So I have taken some inspiration from there as well.

I think relationship needs only one thing that is “Trust”.  As far as there is trust in your relationship your relation exists. I don’t say relationship even survive without Love, care, affection and all. These are necessity of a true relationship. But most important is trust.

Most of the relationships break because of lack of trust. When one of the two partners doubt on other one relationship starts to get close to its end (conditions apply). #Self_Experienced.

One thing that matters a lot is situation. I personally trust that “when someone betray/leave his/her partner there must be some issue behind it” (If real relationship exists).

In Hindi:

Uski Bbhi Kuch Majburia Hongi’

Koi Bewajah Bewaffa ni Hota.

People think if there is any doubt in their relation so it would hurt and it’s over now. But it starts to get to close to its end when those doubts are not cleared. If your partner doubts you then instead of reacting negative on him/her it’s better to understand his/her state of mind at that time and the situation in which he/she is.  Maybe you would find that you would also react same as he/she did when you would be on his/her place at that situation. So when you have the chance to save your relation then don’t waste time to just save your relation.

Some people start ignoring their partners on these situations. It would certainly go worse than it and you would finally lose your partner. Just don’t ignore your partner and have a chat on the matter before critical situation appears when you have nothing but The Guilt of your Relationship.

Lack of communication only creates a Non cross-able river between couple. So don’t create it for yourself it’s better to have a healthy conversation and have a result instead of lack of communication & end of a relationship.

When people allege their partners then they might have a different point of view you just need to clear up the doubts & change the angle from which they are trying to understand the situation.

Hope this would help you find a better way to treat your partner & Relation.

Be Healthy & Take Care.

Regards

Kamal R

 

Who is Your "BEST FRIEND"?

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Who is Your Best Friend?

Hi

Welcome All.

This is my gift to you all on this Friendship day (4th August, 2013).

Yesterday was certainly a Life Changing Day for me. There were lots of ups and downs for me individually but I found someone, who really cares for me and would stand with me when I would be in need.

Everybody on this Earth seeks at least for one person who is “True” to him/her. There is always a special place for That Person who remains with you in every situation and condition. Everybody needs that someone with whom he/she can share everything even those moments which he could not share with anybody. Everybody needs a ‘True Friend’.

It is always demanding to be genuine to your friend as I think friend has more importance than your wife/husband. You don’t share every moment with your Parents, not with your husband/wife, not with someone else but with Friend whom you consider ‘Genuine’ to you.

When we start a relation with someone we always think that he/she would remain genuine to us. But mostly we find out with time who is your Genuinely True friend.  A friend is someone who understands the meaning behind this word ‘Friend’.

Friend is someone who will be there for you always; celebrating your success with you when you get your dream job; consoling you when you get rejected in your interview; telling you that he/she is not worth your respect, care and love when you get Breakup with your gf/bf; scolding you when you make a mistake when you miss your mark. Friend is always making you feel what your real worth is.

In the start of this article I shared that I found someone who will be my True friend and will remain true to me. Yesterday I met with “Kamal Rewri” and I know he would remain Genuine till the end of my Life. I have some good friends and a Best Friend (other than myself) as well. Time changes continuously; situation will change with time, some would remain in my life some would leave me but I will not leave myself in any situation. My priority will remain the same to me; it will not change with situation. I will remain the first priority of Myself.

I’m not saying that the friends you have will change according to the situation but you are the only one who will remain genuine to you till the end of your life nothing else. But we always need the one outside us with whom we can share everything.

Friends are the Treasure of Life. So please keep your Friendship alive. Being lonely just gives you pain nothing else.

 So this is my advice to Everybody.

“Be Genuine, Be true. If there is something wrong happened in your relationship then calls your friend and tell him/her how Important he/she is in your life. This is the time so Just do it. Don’t think what he/she would think and how he/she would react just tell him/her his/her importance”

Thanks.

Regards

Kamal R

Motivation by Inspiration

Motivation by Inspiration

Quiet similar words but having a great difference in meaning.

I always heard that to meet the GOD you must need a GODFATHER.

Most of the times it is justified because everything in this world has become achievable by shortcuts.

And shortcuts always require someone who guides you to get your destination.

There is always having a stage with everyone in his/her life when he/she needs Motivation.

We need a kick start to move ahead continuously.

Most of the times we are right but we don’t have courage to say it & take a decision according to that. Many a time you must have listened if you want to be like someone, you need to get some guidance from that someone & most of the time it is said” you must be Somebody because now days those somebodies are having great demands & they are paid a lot.

Right ….!!!!!!!!

But nobody cares who you are & what you want to do.

Sometime you may get the feeling that you could not do anything & everything seems unachievable.

You are exhausted by your daily routine, your dear and near ones because they always want you to be at the top without knowing the fact that what you are capable of & in which field.

I also had a phase when I was irritated & frustrated with myself & anyone else. I didn’t have that courage to face my problems.

I was running continuously but in opposite direction.

You must have heard about Mr Sandeep Maheshwari in my last Blogs.

He is the man who changed my outlook towards life.

I am not a philosopher or a very high classed typical successful person who always tries to give you lectures. But I have that courage to say you all I will be successful one day.

I have faith in my capabilities. To be successful, you need not to run hard towards your aim, but you just need to make sure that you are on the right path and you would continuously move ahead.

“NA DAUDNA HAI, NA RUKNA HAI, BUS CHALTE RAHNA HAI”

There is a minor difference between Motivation & Inspiration.

Motivation leads you to believe that You can do it.

Inspiration leads you to understand what you can do & how.

And both are essentials of our daily life.

I faced so many interviews and got rejected many a time. But I always know when I would be outside the interview room, I would be telling to myself that this time I would definitely get selected because I heard a thing that says……..

“Whatever happens, happens for the BEST”

There is nothing like Bad Luck in this world because

“Jo bhi hota hai ache ke liye e hota hai”

You just need to put your foot on the accelerator & make sure that you are on the right path.

So whenever you need to get motivation, just be near to your best buddies as you may have lost that faith in yourself but your best buddies will not.

And whenever you need Inspiration just listen to yourself because there is no bigger Inspiration than yourself in this world.

Stay healthy.

Stay motivated.

All the best

Regards

Kamal R

Gradients in the Recipe of Life

Searching….. Searching………. Searching………. Searching……!!!!

Still searching The Next Topic of my Blog.

My College Life………Done

Motivation…………….Done

Love Life……………...Done

Imagination…………..Done

What has been left now? I don’t know what to write next.

Actually I need some suggestions from you guys. I require feedback from you. Positive or negative whatever it may be but I need this from you.

Some of my close friends complimented me on my Last Blog. One called me “Kamal the Writer”. The other one suggested me to write a novel. I thanked them.

I can’t talk to everybody to know the status of my Blog. So please, I request you all, do comment on my Blog. Give me some suggestions or feedback about my writing skills so that I can improve.

Gradients in the Recipe of Life

I start with the sentence,” Success comes from Experience & Experience comes from Bad Experiences.” 

That means to enjoy your Success fully you must be a failure in the past. Here failure means Experience. In this world, if you want to be at the top, you must start form the ground. Then step by step move up & continuously aiming for your aim & that will definitely let you be at the top.

There are some important gradients in the recipe of Life that would make you a Successful Human Being.

•        Positivity
•       Calmness
•       Passion
•      Doer

These all are complementary to each other. If one of them stated above is missing, you will be lacking in your life.

Positivity:- It is easy to say that I’m optimistic or a positive thinker. But in reality No human being can control his thoughts.

A Human Being thinks on more than 50,000 thoughts in a day. He has not have command on his thoughts. It’s a natural process.

It is mandatory where ever there is light, there must be a darker side (shadow).

Same is applicable with this Positivity comes with Negativity.

Now the question arises how to manage to be positive? The only solution is to be a good listener/observer. Until you don’t analyse a thought you could not say whether it is a Positive one or Negative one. To remain Positive you must concentrate on Positive only.

You just need to set your measures to decide what is positive & what is negative…!

Just keep the positive ones with you & ignore the rest.

Calmness:- Why calmness?

 To take any right decision of your life you must consider both sides of the coin & for that you must be calm & relax. Because..

“Ek sahi Kaam ko karne ke liye Josh ke sath sath Hosh Ki bhi Jarurat hoti hai”

Passion:- Passion leads any Impossible thing into Reality.

Every time you decide to do something you need to have that passion to do it right. Without it I don’t think one can achieve something.

Whenever you feel that you have a strong desire to do a particular thing that means you have strong passion to do that.

 Whatever which gives you happiness without having the second thought develop a Passion within you.

Doer:- If you are having all the above stated qualities but you are not a DOER then it is all waste. Until you don’t have courage to pursue your desire into reality everything is waste.

So just do it.

When you have taken Positivity, you have a great Passion & have the Calmness required then Just be a Doer & Do it.

Do it for your Passion, for your Success, for your Life.

Thank you all.

Hope this will help you.

I will be waiting for your feedback.

Regards

Kamal R. 

A Medicine to all your Problems: Suicide?

You must have heard about actress Jia Khan committed suicide. That case has become more complicated. Her last movie was with Akhshay Kumar & her career was started with the Living Legend Mr Amitabh Bachchan & in the very next movie she was with Mr Perfectionist Aamir Khan. Nobody knows the reason behind this sad incident. The whole Bollywood is “Nishabdh”.

Now the question arises” Is this the solution for every Problem?”

If you get low marks in your board exams & you don’t have courage to face your parents who always want you to be at the top; so you can’t just commit suicide to get rid of all your problems.

Is this the real solution?

May be for that someone who wants to run away from all his problems but after this what would have been the future of his dear & near ones who always have the dream for you to be at the top.

They want you to become somebody in the society so that they can say proudly that yes he is my son or she is my daughter.

Sometime A person is in that situation that cannot be bearable. May be he/she could have the courage to face his/her problems.

May be the problem requires more mental strength than they have.

My question is who is responsible for these types of cases?

Parents? Police & System? Education System? Or an Individual?

Obviously this era is the era of competition. Every parent wants their child to get good marks, to be very athletic, to be No. 1 & to make them proud in any manner.

Sometimes they ignore the talent of their child & make their child a puppet & want him/her to perform well just to make sure that their child is ahead of someone’s child & make them feel low.

I was watching television some days ago & I observed that most of the parents pressurizing their child to be no. 1, there are so many Reality Shows for kids now days & parents just want them to get in at any cost.

They don’t want their children to be at the top in one field but all fields.

When I searched for the suicide cases in India at one of famous News Agency’s website I found more than 20 cases of suicide on the front page of that website.

And most of them had happened within last 24 hours. Those were the cases I came through but the list was not short enough.

Is our police system responsible for this?

I don’t know why people always blame police force & system…!!!

If somebody doesn’t have courage to find a safe way for his problems how police force & system would help?

Now days so many board exams’ results have been declared & some parents are very happy because their children made them proud & some are searching for that smile which was on the faces of their children at the time of vacations.

Not every child would be a topper but does the grading system divide students?

Teachers always appreciate those on which they don’t have to work hard. But those who are little bit slow in their studies don’t deserve a chance to be taken care of more precisely?

Some of the students lose hopes against grading system. They have more worries about their near & dear ones, how would they react after knowing the fact about low grade of their child?

In the end “They quit”.

There are different roles of teachers, parents and friends to encourage their students, children & friends to be tough enough to face any type of problems.

Suicide is not the solution for every problem.

There are phases when pressure is so hard on the mind & we don’t know what to do.

In my opinion, the only solution of any problem in this world is “to share” &” find the solution.”

The path may be hard but the end will be good.

Hope this would help you all when you need this type of encouragement.

This time I, Kamal R is signing off.

See you soon

Stay healthy

Stay fit

Stay focused

Regards

Kamal R.

Guilt in a Relationship

Guilt in a Relationship

There may be so many times you feel guilty for something or for someone.

It is a human tendency when things are going wrong in one’s life he feels guilty of what he had done rather he might have some other options.

He might not be in the situation if he had been chosen the other one.

Being guilty & feeling guilty are two completely different aspects.

Mostly, we, humans, look towards negative. That does not mean we are not optimistic or positive towards life. But we always check for the risk factor.

When we have something to lose, we always think over how we could save it not for how we could get it. Some might be disagree with me on this.

But mostly it has been seen.

If a couple breaks off they think that they could have a better match. They might get faulty while they had been choosing their partner.

But a relationship always has a Best phase & a worse phase of its life.

In the best one everything seems great, both respect, love & support each other. They have best time of their life with each other.

But in the bad one, most of the couples leave each other & feel guilty for choosing them as one of the important person of their lives.

I don’t know why it happens but feeling guilty in these situations is completely wrong.

In bad phase that is the time for the real test for you to prove that you are always there for her in her happiness, sorrow and in every situation.

Always have faith in your partner & friend and when these type of situations occurs you must be there cheering your partner & saying “Dear I am always here for you.”

I am not guilty for whatever happened in my life but I am very happy for this what is happened because it would be worse than this.

I enjoyed presence of every one in my life, my friends, relatives, my love, my crush, my rivals and everyone else who supported me & were against me. I thank you all for this wonderful experiences. My life could not be like this without you all.

I am felling lucky to be not guilty of all this.

I just loved my past, I love my present & I will love my future.

Thank you all

Stay guilt free and take care.

Regards

Kamal R

Five Effective ways to get out of Frustration

Five Effective ways to get out of Frustration

Being frustrated is very common problem of one’s daily life. There are things which lead you to be frustrated. Here I’m not going to explain which results in frustration. But I’m going to tell you about the solution to get out of the frustration.

1st way: Take a pillow or a punching bag & punch until your frustration goes down. As when one get frustrated or get angry over a thing or a person, one always look forward to target that thing or that person. At these moments one look to attack which is natural. So pillow is a better option than to target a person. It would be beneficial in another way as well that pillow would not reply you back after being punched by you.

2^nd way:  Now being in a relationship or having a best friend benefits you at this moment. As sharing is a method to find out the way to celebrate in happiness & to find out the solution in problems. When one shares his emotions with others, it drives him into a close relationship & he can find a way to get out of his problems as well. When someone makes you feel confident whether you are right or wrong, that is the person who can make you believe in yourself & get out of these situations & feel awesome.

3^rd way: the next way is for those who do not have good friends or who do not believe in sharing their personal life with others. Make it a habit to write moments your daily life on a paper or in a diary rather you can post that paper to the person who creates frustration for you but with terms & conditions apply because how that person would react is completely unpredictable. It is called as “Virtual Relationship”.

4^th way: meditation can be a great measure against frustration. Meditation allows your mind to be calm & makes you to have control on your mind. To control your mind means you would be able to control your emotions. You can stand out neutral at peak situations like when there would be extreme surprising situation & in extreme shocking situation as well. So just do it regularly & make you a peaceful & cool person.

5^th way: this is the coolest way to get out of these situations. Do what you most likely to do. Don’t think on the situation; don’t think what others think about you. Just do what you like to do. Use your habits & interests to find out the way to get relaxed. You can sing, dance, play or paint. The interests which give you internal pleasure make ways for you to get out of these situations. There are important measures to find out the best way which gives you immense pleasure. Just compare your interest against money & time you will find the answer. The thing you can do without giving the second thought to money & time is the thing which can help you.

Apart from the entire methods one most important thing which is necessary is “not to react immediately”.

Everything fails if you react immediately. Just take a pause for some seconds before reacting before someone or for something. Get your breath back and analyze the situation & find out the best way to get out of it accordingly.

Hope this would help you out.

Stay updated.

Regards

Kamal R.