How to get relieve of your problems

How to get relieve of your problems

Welcome All to "The Transformation"

An optimistic always thinks that life is the other name of opportunities. But it has some high class hurdles also. As Failure is important to get Success these hurdles are also important parts of life.

Every individual, from a one day child to a 101 years old person, has his own problems. I think Nobody on this Earth is satisfied.

One of my friends does not have a Job that’s why he is in tension. Another friend has so many options so that he is in tension. One has Job in his own field but away from home so that he is in tension.

I think everybody on this Earth has a lots & lots of problems. But every individual is Unique. He has different views on different aspects of life. He has a different Thought Process.  He handles a problem from his own point of view that’s why some people get succeed to get over their problems and some might not be.

Actually Problem is not at all the core thing to focus on. We just need to focus on the solution of that problem rather thinking that how big this problem is.  The only solution to Every Problem is just change the way you look the problem.

Certainly there are people who are good to handle their problems but thinking on the other aspect of a thing may be making you realize that “It is not a problem at all”.

Recently I had a fight with my girlfriend (who is certainly my Ex after that fight) and I was complaining so many things while she was just ignoring me so that we could get out of this all. She had her own way of looking at this fight and my perception was completely different from her. I was little late to understand the exact situation before I could understand the different aspect from which she was looking. And finally she decided to leave me and left me as well. I don’t say here I was right & she was not or she was right & I was not but because of our different way of thinking we couldn’t get relieved from this problem.  

Here I just might have needed to change my perception. And I might have succeeded to get her back.

Final words:

This is again a free advice to you all.

“Don’t look for problem it only can be as bigger as mountain but just look for the solution may be this can be as small as a needle”

Thanks.

Stay Problem free.

Stay healthy and fit

Regards

Kamal R

Gyan "The Knowledge"

''Gyan Batne se Badhta hai'' (When You share your knowledge your wisdom enhances)
 

You must have heard this proverb in Hindi. But is this really applicable in today's life style? Do you really think you do it to enhance your knowledge or wisdom? Just think for a second. What does it real mean & how real people use it? or are they really use it or not?
 

Well almost everybody must have an idol in his/her life. He/she can be a businessman, an employee, a star, a sportsperson, CEO of a Company, your Father, Mother, Brother or anyone else. So just think about your Idol (excluding your father, mother and brother though they would be your real well-wisher) & try to fit them in this proverb. Are they really do this? Are they sharing their knowledge and experience with you the upcoming talent?
 

I'm not blaming anybody but the nature has been changed and continuously be changing. People's self confidence, self belief has been converted into ''Ego''.
 

Let's suppose if you want to be an Engineer or a doctor or any body else in the society and you are following somebody who can have some treasure of his knowledge & experience and wisdom and when you approach him would he be really help you to find out the right way? Most of them just share their success that will definitely excite you to make quick decisions of what to do and should you move into this or not? But they don't tell you the real story (mostly 75 % don't).
 

They just give you lectures not lessons. They don't believe in sharing their Failures with the rest. They just celebrate their success. I'm not writing this not to make you against your Idols. but just try to draw your attention towards reality.
 

Everybody starts from a scratch so if you follow somebody follow him/her from the moment he started.
 

Actually there would always be some hesitation to accept somebody & his perception who is known when he/she tries to do something out of the box. So for those who have desires to do something unique then don't try to convince your near ones to accept you but target the audience who are unknown to you. As they start liking your concepts they will try to follow you from the start rather your near ones won't understand this concept.
 

Regards
Kamal R

Being Failure is an Achievement.....!!!!!

 

   

Being a Failure is an Achievement….!!!!

You might have confused after reading this title, anybody could be. But whatever you are reading is absolutely right. Being a Failure is an Achievement.

You might have taken it in another way and might be thinking author has become mad. But I can bet on it whatever I have written above is right. And it would have been proved when you really realize it then you would definitely say that it is a great achievement.

I explained a lot of times in my previous blogs that live for yourself & listen to your inner voice and do according to that.

Most of the times you might have been scolded by your loved ones on asking about your future plans like what you want to do in life or telling why don’t you try in that particular field(which might have different from your core stream).  This is really frustrating, I know, but at these moments one thing is very important which is your inner world.

Many a times we live in fantasies or in Imaginations. That must be kept alive all the time. Those are the real hopes for them who are drowning down in the sea. That is the time when your real character would be tested.

Don’t afraid, Good phase gives you Happiness and Bad phase teaches you Lessons. Keep your mind open & keep your inner world alive.  

Just avoid everything and listen what your inner world tells you. Do what you want to do in reality.

That might be less luxurious but effectively will be more adorable to you. Just live for yourself.  Nobody cares for you when you are facing Failures. Just do what you want to do and achieve what would give you peace and real happiness.

You may have lots of money in your bank account but if you don’t have peace of mind everything would be wasted. And when you do what your heart say to you people might call you ‘Mad’. But don’t lose heart because if people don’t call you ‘Mad’ you probably might not be on the right track.

So just be positive when you get Failure & say to the world, “Yes, I’m a big Failure and this is my Achievement”.

 

 

The Thought Process

The Thought Process

Every individual is unique and he has a unique thought process as well. There is a very thin line between playing good and playing great. It is not about talent or potential one possesses but it is all about to deliver. Now how one's thought process plays a vital role in getting results.
Whenever one decides to do something he wants to do; his thought process makes him confused most of the times. Being an optimist or positive thinker does not make much difference if there is a little hint of doubt in mind.
  Every time one overcomes the hurdles; the journey becomes harder and harder. Every-time one steps up towards his success; the staircase becomes smaller in size & height becomes more higher. As one progresses towards his aim ''fear'' climbs up as higher as he is on. Fear of loosing momentum, fear of happening something wrong & creating hurdle of his own success.
  Everyone starts from zero. Right? So as higher you are from zero as higher your fear would be of loosing. And whenever you start with doubt in your mind, I guarantee you never get succeed.
You must have one of these two things to start with either a strong Belief system or a strong Passion.

I have explained in my previous Blogs about Belief System You can take a look here.

A Happy Thought 

Are you stuck in past or live in present? 

 I know one thing that if you want to throw this fear out of yourself the kid inside you must be alive.

A 3 years old child doesn't play game to win or loose he just plays to enjoy. He doesn't have fear to loose. He doesn't think what would happen if he looses or wins. He just enjoys those moments without giving any thought to it.

So every time you want to proceed and get success you must be fearless. And you would be fearless when you behave like a kid. 

Don't bother about what others think and what your mind says. Just do it in childish way and you will be Successful because you would not have fear.

All The Best.

Stay Updated.

Regards 

Kamal R

Are you stuck in the past or live in present?

Are you stuck in the past or live in present?

Welcome all!!!
Obviously we live in our present but how past affects our present is worth-mentioning. It can be in positive or negative way.
We have Past, Present & Future.
Past that has been already happened so that is uncontrollable. Now comes to future, which is still not come so that is also uncontrollable right? And Present is what that is going on now (At this moment only), as this moment passes it becomes Past.
Now how past things affects present?  You must notice this in any conversation we only talk about past or future. The ratio is 80:20. We mostly talk about Past.
As we think or have a conversation on anything related to past, it starts effecting our present.
Let's take a situation; we have 3 boxes Past, Present & Future. And we are on the 2nd box named as Present.

 

As we think about our past or future, it would not remain past or future but ultimately it becomes our present.

Now just suppose if there was something happened in your past that has given you a lot of pain.
And you are still thinking of it how that thing had hurt you then you are just recreating the same scenario again that would only give you the same pain nothing else.
In my last blog, I said that sharing is a good method to get out of your frustration. But sharing your problems with having an eye on the source of that problem is not worthy at all. You should share but considering solution of your problem not the source of your problem. It will give you nothing but the pain.
You must have heard ''History repeats itself''. This is the method how history repeats. We have taken that pain in the past recreating the same scenario in the present would also give that pain & it repeats itself.
One more thing I have heard about the past that says ''Remember your past so that you can improve your future''. It means not to repeat your past faults again.
Our belief system says if someone is hurting you in any way & you want to get out of this either change the person (nature-wise) or not to get involved. But that is also not in our control to change someone. Now what should we do in these situations?
You just need to re-arrange your Belief system.
The only thing that is under your control is "Yourself". Don't avoid anything in your life. but just prepare yourself for how you should respond to a particular situation to not to get hurt.
"Just make sure that your focus must be on yourself & your present only"
Stay healthy & stay updated.
Regards
Kamal R.

The Power of Acceptance

Most of the people on earth do not have the courage to accept who they are.
To be original one must accept himself in every situation, with his capabilities, his nature and his disabilities as well. The best way to lead your life is to accept all your capabilities & disabilities. Because so much sugar can be dangerous to health. There is always as importance of salt in the food as the sugar in a desert.
The right amount of sugar and salt in your food lead you a healthy life.
So to make balance in one's life one must accept all his positive & negative points. But normally people fail to accept their negative points because they want to show the world that they are perfect in all respective of life.
I don't know why people avoid to accept their faults.
Being accepted of both your abilities & disabilities make you lead a perfect life rather I would say there is nothing like perfect life. But if one accept all good & bad reviews of life he can lead a perfect life.
If there is a Day(Sunrise) then there is night(Sunset) as well. But we always look for the limelight of day in our life.
You must enjoy every moment of your life. Because every second of your life is important to you either in happiness or sorrow, in day or in night, in positive or negative. Every second must be cherished to its best. Because you can enjoy your food only if you have hunger.
If one want to change his behavior or improve his behavior towards something so he must accept first to bring about the change. If one can't even accept the faults he commits now he can bring that change in himself.
So to lead a perfect life understand the power of the word ''The Acceptance''.
Accept your weak points to improve and make them your strengths.
So I,Kamal R, is going to bring that change in myself. I accept all my disabilities & faults which I had made in my relationships with my parents, my friends, my relatives, my love & myself.
I accept & promise to everyone & myself, I will take care of the love, care & fight, the sunrise & sunset, the brighter & darker side of my life & your life without which I can not lead a perfect relation & a perfect life.
''Understand the Power of Acceptance.''                        
Regards
Kamal R

Don't misunderstand to understand the misunderstanding

”Don't Misunderstand to Understand the Misunderstanding"
And this would definitely be applicable to all. Misunderstanding creates divide.
It is necessary for a relationship to have love, care and understanding.
No I do not mean that understanding is much more important than love and care but it has its own importance. When someone is in a relationship he may have the blind trust and faith in his partner. Having faith in your partner is good but blind faith is not good at all.
Obviously being possessive and jealous is natural in a relationship but excess of anything can be dangerous.
I'm not against being in a relationship but anything more than required can be getting worse than ever.
Most of the times I saw a minor Misunderstanding leads to divorce or breakup.
Break up from all the love, care, affection & trust.
When you are in a relationship You must be conscious of what is happening around you in your relationship.
It may be very easy for someone to create Misunderstandings and Break the relationship.
Misunderstanding makes you to be out of your own relationship.
Be honest and loveable to your partner and make your relationship as strong so that nobody can try to break your relationship.
I also was the victim of Misunderstanding. I had lost so many relationships just because of some Misunderstanding.
It always requires time to make new friends and make them believe that you are their true friend.
I also had taken so much of time to make those friends and made them realize that I was a genuine guy.
But it was hardly taken a second to be thrown away from all my relationships just because of minor Misunderstandings.
Friendship, love and affection everything needs a second chance.
When you would have believed in your friend, love & partner then make that count at crucial times.
Don't allow anyone else to decide future of your relationships.
Stay calm, stay trusted so that your partner can have that second opportunity to convince you and make you believe that your partner is always with you in your happiness, when you would be sad, when you want to celebrate and when you need someone to hug you & make you feel like you are really special.
Special to your Parents, to your best buddies & to your love.
So it is an advice to all
" Don't misunderstand to understand the Misunderstanding".
Stay healthy, stay awake.
Regards
Kamal R